Hi ,
Welcome to Vidhya Galaxy.
Glad to invite you to my Galaxy.
Hope the topic made you to be here, shows we are Humans.
Human!!!!
Who is Human?
When you browse for the meaning ,you will end up with 2 points:
1. Specis of Primates,characterised by Bipedalism and large ,complex brain.
The second point is what we need and interesting too.
2.Humans are highly social and try to live in complex social structures, consisting of coperatve and competitive groups from families, friends, kinship networks.
Social interactions among them have developed varied values and social norms.
Very True, precisely we are SOCIAL ANIMALS.
We cannot live alone without a society.
Society should also be added as one of our basic needs.
When borne,as a baby we need ,our Mother.
During different growing stages we need different relationships, like
Dad and Mom to teach skills .
Siblings to play with.
Grand parents for showering Love.
Friends for joy sharing.
Neighbours for emergencies.
Life partners for life sharing, caring, support.
Colleagues in work place.
Medical service team during illness.
Like the List goes on and on and on..
This List defines that we remain dependent always without our knowledge.
What is RELATIONSHIP?
Dependency on something for some need make us cling to some one or many.
A Ship need to depend on an Anchor for its stability when in shore.
Same in our case.
"Ship needs Anchor , while we are Anchored to a ship that is RELATIONSHIP "
DEFINITION:
Thousands of definitions are given for "RELATIONSHIP ".
But the best is "The way in which two or more things are connected "......can add sometime,......to work together.
So Dependency creates RELATIONSHIP.
Hope you will accept!!!.
RELATIONSHIP is a vast subject like an ocean to discuss about.
There are so many varieties, types, decisions, classifications for RELATIONSHIP.
But I'm not , sorry, we are not going to sail in the classification boat
We are into EFFECTS of RELATIONSHIP.
BOON OR CURSE:
First let we roll into positive sides of RELATIONSHIP.
As already said we need certain relationships for certain things or development in life.
Among that one are two become very strong.
Such relationships help us:
- Make us Happy.
- Make us stronger in tough situations.
- Add moral strength and mental stability.
- Lower our pain, which directly improves our heart good health.
- Improve our overall fitness of our body.
- Lower our blood pressure.
- Makes us care on self care.
- Boost our immune system.
- Help us quick heal.
- Finally ,will make us live longer.
When these are the positive sides and BOON of relationships, still
WHY SOMETIMES RELATIONSHIP BECOMES A CURSE ??
Nowadays such relationships throw bitter experiences to us.
Do we struggle in the midst of relationships?
Many say YES!!! WHY?
Bitterness and Disadvantages of RELATIONSHIP:
- We need to adjust a lot to maintain such bonds.
- We loose our individuality sometime.
- Our creativity vanishes in some situations.
- Freedom will be lost depending upon the matter.
- We will be pushed to take up another opinion.
- We have to give others interest first preference.
- Last ,but not least contrary to the saying, "love makes us strong ", no...it doesn't...it makes us weak.
Why relationship turn into CURSE ??
The above said list are effects of relationships, though they furnish many Good vibes to us.
When we are a person ,able to balance both positive and negative sides of a bandage we won't be in trouble. It won't be a CURSE.
But when you can't balance yourself in the pool of love and bandage, you can't swim out.
APPROACHES cause the CURSE:
- When you're DEEPLY BONDED it's going to be a CURSE.
- When you SUBMIT YOUR SELF it will turn to be CURSE.
- Your OVER DEPENDENCY will make it CURSE .
- Your OVER EXPECTATIONS lead to CURSE
- OVER CARING is another root cause for the CURSE.
In course of Life we fall into above said invisible traps . In the beginning we feel only goodness in the bond which blind folds the negative down sides of relationships.
More Expectations grow on course of time, leading to destruction.
What to do to manage?
How to handle ?
What is the Solution to safeguard yourself ??
We Human has a great ability to handle tough situations, maximum.
The ability comes from INNER SIGHT. Foremost QUALITIES you should develop in you are:
DOs:
Always depend only on your insights.
Live like a LOTUS LEAF.
Lotus leaf will not get submerged into water due to its NONSTICK QUALITY. Be like that. Youwill not be drowned.
Prioritise your importance, your aim, your values, without harming others.
Develop the quality to show love to all equally instead concentrating on one or one group. As Air you feel you are bound less.
Analyse which is needed, why,how much....intact biological reactions in us will blind fold all these.
But train yourself to analyse.
Always search for good, positive, natural vibes rather than disguised.
Be TRUTHFUL and LOYAL to you ,before expecting from others.
LOVE YOURSELF.
DON'T s:
Don't get blended with any kind of relationships
Don't Expect anything from anyone.
EXPECTATIONS lead to DISAPPOINTMENTS.
Don't show discriminations, even though others show to us. BE A BETTER HUMAN.
Don't get carried away by sweet words.They are Lies actually.
Don't be possessive and get caught into a circle, which would be tough to break.
Don't harm others for your success
Don't choose wrong or short ways to attain your goals through relationships, financially both will be lost.
"DOs and DON'T may be easy to List out", I could hear your inner voice.
That's true, advising is easy, following is tough!.
But we can try our best to avoid complications in life in maintaining relationships. No need to be dependent and at the same no need to be selfish.
SELF-RELIANCE is the only SOLUTION for all the confusions and complications in sticking to relationships.
SELF RELIANCE gives FREEDOM to you and the person or persons related to you.
Being SELF RELIANT will make you to live your LIFE the FULLEST.
Always go for it. It makes you LOVE YOURSELF the most. Have shared a small note on LOVE YOURSELF in one of my previous post,,just as a trailer. If interested please read it.
Be SELF RELIANT
BE INDEPENDENT
BE POSITIVE
BE TOLERANT , LITTLE
BE LOVABLE
BE A BETTER HUMAN
I write this post just as a Brief or a trailer to the vast ocean like topic , RELATIONSHIP. Still more to share.
It will be easy for me to go into different angles of the topics if you share your thoughts, experiences ,questions, doubts on relationship in life.
It may be paternal, friendly, official, anything. It may be even of others you have witnessed and impacted more.
Thanks for visiting our Galaxy.
Be a BETTER HUMAN for HAPPY LIFE!!.
Waiting for your Responses .
Regards.
Vidhya.
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